Losing a pet is hard, they are the constant companion who listened without censure. They are the comforter who stayed up with you all night, or when your human companions were ill/away. They are with us for such a short time, but take up such a large part of our hearts. Everyone feels differently about their pet and their grief, don't poo-poo anything. If you're feeling it, it's real. Take time to be honest about your emotions and validate they exist. Denial, guilt, anger, and depression are all real reactions to the loss of a pet, and can be overwhelming. Find an outlet for these feelings, either with good friends or with a professional who can help you work through the pain. Don't stuff them inside, do activities, talk to pet loss counselors, find a support group, commemorate your pet, do waht it takes to work through waht you're dealing with. Memorials, volunteering, etc can all help you as you decide where to go. And don't forget to watch out for your other pets and children, they can grieve as much as you do. Healthy coping mechanisms must be found for everyone.
The local veterinary group has an excellent pet-loss support group that meets weekly, contact the DAVMS for this info. http://www.petlossdenver.org/
There are also excellent reading sources for children and adults alike, most are available through your local library. The 10 best things about Barney is one of my favorites. There were so many listed on the site when I searched, that I recommend doing the search and picking out the ones that interest you.
Should you get another pet is one of the bigger questions I hear also. The fact is, you can't replace the pet that passed on, but in time you may be ready to share your heart with a new bundle of joy. Give yourself the time you need to heal, and when you're ready rescue a new best friend. Then take the time to socialize and learn about this new pet. Time will eventually heal your painful memories, so that the happy memories of the new good times can be shared.
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